Do you ever hear someone say “I wonder when she’ll move on” from grief?
‘We don’t look around at people experiencing joys and wonders of life, like the birth of a child, and tell them to move on. What, you’re celebrating a ‘fifth’ birthday party? Get over it!’ – Nora McInerny.
Grief is an awkward subject, one not talked about. The less we talk about something awkward, the less our children know how to deal with talking or feelings when grief arises (or is it falls?). We feel the awkwardness when we grieve and people say odd things. We say odd things ourselves to those that are grieving.
Everyone has a quiet hope for you that one day ‘you’ll move on from grief’. You may even stop sharing joyful or hard, painful stories about the one you lost for fear people think ‘wow, she’s ‘still’ not over it…’
This TED talk talks about grief. For those of you who are curious, those that are grieving anew or ongoing.
In recent years our family have grieved the loss of 4 of our beloved fathers and sons. We may still get awkward in dealing with others grief. We all walk towards others grief, we won’t shy from it, as we might before. We still talk about our men and boys as ‘beings’ not ‘done’. We haven’t moved on, we have moved forward with it 💞