Our Childhood Responses to Fear and the DDT Roles™
Fear is a fundamental part of the human experience, shaping our responses and behaviours from a young age.
Fear is a fundamental part of the human experience, shaping our responses and behaviours from a young age.
This triangle has three parts: the Persecutor, the Victim, and the Rescuer. But here’s the catch: these roles aren’t fixed. We can switch them around, play them all by ourselves or with others, and some of the roles don’t need to be played by human beings; they can be numbing habits we adopt. No wonder we sometimes feel so tangled up.
Usually when there’s fear, there’s a scared little kid, right? That’s when we get more specific. Okay, in inner child work, how do children usually feel? Children are scared. Children can be really sad. They’re rebellious, they’re angry. And not to say that your adult self can’t be those things either, but usually when we feel really strongly about a situation, that might not warrant the situation, right? If we wait a second, and think my reaction is way bigger than the situation calls for that’s when our inner child is being triggered.
In part two of Transformative Leadership with The Power of TED*®, I had the privilege of speaking with Sheri Lawrence, fellow TED*®champion and VP of Learning & Development and Sales at Studio Movie Grill in Dallas. Our discussion centred around a
We are all human beings. If we can recognise that our past behaviours can serve as a lesson and then bravely explore a new way of being, and what we can do differently, with curiosity and vulnerability, the magic of change is already beginning.
‘I wanted to be that leader that I felt good about every night on my way home.’ – Sheri Lawrence
Susan once created a business she thought was a lifestyle business. Over the next five years she constantly had to reset her vision as that business grew beyond what she anticipated. Bringing her professional corporate experience to the table, having worked for 16 years in a Sydney law firm serving elite Eastern Sydney clientele, Susan quickly shifted gears, aspiring to become a better leader, CEO, Company Director and partner to her clients. Susan approaches work, how she engages with clients, her podcast guests and blog writing consciously choosing to show up authentically, truthfully and with vulnerability to model and inspire change and empowerment. This blog includes transcripts from podcast interviews and interesting stories, some exercises and worksheets, all with gems of wisdom and key takeaways for you to benefit from. Enjoy!