With many years of award-winning business experience and a passion for personal and professional growth and contribution to our community, Susan offers a bespoke menu of services, custom-fitted to suit each client’s individual needs.
Smarter, helpful coaching and training that’s about stronger, saner and healthier ways of behaving. Make the shift from being drained by problems to being energised by the endless possibilities within your reach!
A must for leaders at all levels who want to transform the way in which they work together, address the workplace drama and create fulfilling and effective relationships that are resourceful, resilient, and innovative.
Coffee and Contemplation with Susan, the cross-generational sharing of stories from real people every decade of life. The guests I invite have stories to share!
Smarter, helpful coaching and training that’s about stronger, saner and healthier ways of behaving. Make the shift from being drained by problems to being energised by the endless possibilities within your reach!
I’d just turned 40 and was in the 5th year of growing my health care company, RNS Nursing.
I could see immediately that the 3 roles of the drama triangle (victim, persecutor and rescuer) were what we human beings operate like. It’s in our personal relationships and seeps into our day-to-day interaction and behaviour in the workplace too.
It’s an exhausting way to operate if that’s how you operate in relating to others, your experience and with yourself.
It’s an exhausting show to watch once you become aware that’s what’s being played out in front of you. I’d see the drama in people even before I’d made it across the office to my desk, with a hope to start the day as I’d planned!
Back then, in 2005, I was crazy busy, with 3 young daughters, the company was growing geographically; as well as in capacity to serve. I was very much living and learning to be a leader ‘on the fly’.
I put the new learning of the drama triangle back on the shelf for another time.
Two years later, I finally got to put my office door keys on the reception desk. My exit from an interesting, sometimes shocking, other times enlightening, drama-filled 24 months of earn-out under the new corporate boys and girls from Brisbane and Sydney was over.
In those 24 months I weathered and witnessed more kinds of drama triangle storms, played out by the head office blue-striped shirts, than I had in all 15 years prior, of owning the company.
On exit, with husband, Tom, I took a gap year of travel, started my recovery from burnout and formalised all of my experience with certification as a coach to help other leaders and human-beings get what they dreamed of.
In the course of years after that gap year, I came across David Emerald and Donna Zajonc of Bainbridge Leadership Center in the USA. On becoming a member of the International Coaching Federation, I attended a webinar David and Donna hosted about TED*. At first there was that quick realisation it was not actually a TED kind of talk I was zooming into. Then that was quickly replaced with curiosity and delight that I was being introduced to the antidote to the drama triangle! The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*)®.
I read both of David’s books and have since written a memoir, of my personal recovery from childhood sexual abuse.
The healing journey of writing included reading professional texts and scouring research papers. That permitted me to accept family dysfunction that surrounds a childhood tainted by the kind of abused I’d endured.
We can choose to continue living within the drama triangle roles. We can also become aware of when we need to drop into those roles, because we all do need them from time-to-time. It’s just that staying there shorter term with awareness is a far healthier alternative.
I listened on Audible to The Power of TED*® three or four times and began practicing The Empowerment Dynamic. I undertook the 3 stages of training offered by David and Donna, so I am now certified to deliver this work within my coaching practice. Doing it for me first, required me to become incredibly honest with myself. I wanted to understand how I had participated in the drama triangle, see the reality, and choose what’s next. To see that the choices and change work is possible and it is.
I learnt that my default drama triangle role was that of rescuer, so I’m consciously working at being a recovering rescuer! One important lesson in that was, I’d entered my coaching career initially in rescuer-mode, and rescuing helps nobody.
With that awareness, I changed and practiced the healthier way of practicing with mentor support. I’ve grown and continue to grow as the lifelong learner that I am.
As a coach and 3VQ® certified trainer, I choose to lead, believe and create, 3 words that have been an often-repeated mantra since 2011; and are also my business tagline.
3 words that somehow perfectly fit with the creator orientation of The Empowerment Dynamic®, something I couldn’t miss noting.
As an outcomes-focused coach, I choose to inspire others to be, do and have what they choose. I support them in their decision of how they will show up; and what kind of person they still might aspire to be, if not quite there, already.
Evolving my coaching practice over these past few years has been an inspired eye-opening journey.
The strengthened base of bringing the Power of TED*® and the 3 Vital Questions® framework as a 3VQ® certified trainers, that has been one very exciting milestone to reach.
As an additional bonus, I’ve joined their peer community of like-minded international trainers and mentors in this work. Meeting with them monthly, after midnight my time, is both incredibly humbling and inspiring.
The work I do is transformational outcomes-focused coaching and training to brave leaders choosing to grow and to empower their people.
Put first things first: the work begins with YOU and the work is always from the INSIDE out.
I’m here for you!
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Take care,
Susan Dunlop
Professional Coach ICF NLP & 3VQ® Certified Trainer